Borderline Personality Disorder And Relationships: How To Make It Work

This can be especially true for romantic relationships. Can a person with borderline personality disorder feel love? They may just have a hard time expressing it or establishing some stability in their relationships.

Likewise, people suffering from paranoia would like to isolate themselves from their surroundings since they believe people are untrustworthy. This can be avoided if both of you take baby steps toward having a healthy social life. This is the severe type of paranoia wherein the person experiences strange and wildest delusions. For instance, they could feel that their thoughts or personal life are being broadcasted on social media to the world via some medium.

He is not welcome at my house, I do wonder if he perceives me as a threat to his and his mothers relationship that it could escalate his threat into action. I know you didn’t ask me, but, if I was you, I would trust my feelings, and my observations of this man’s behaviours, and stay far away. The behaviours you describe, imo, are not healthy behaviours. Work to find the real you, don’t let others define you.

From what you have written it is not a healthy relationship and seems harmful to your wellbeing. As I suggested, a good therapist will validate your experiences and help you to move on in your life to a more stable ground. Perhaps, the more you tell us the better handle we can help you get on this.

The individual may then learn how to talk to others about their fears in a productive way. They may also develop strategies for managing anxiety in the moment so they do not lash out at others. If you answer “yes” to most of these questions, your partner or family member might have borderline personality disorder. If they think you might have a personality disorder like paranoid personality disorder, they could refer you to a specialist, like a psychologist or a psychiatrist. Antisocial personality disorder is characterized by patterns of manipulation and violation of others.

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You may also find that expressing your appreciation in social media may make them feel more secure in the relationship. If this is something that feels OK with you, try posting photos together or adding romantic comments to what they post. Research has found that those who live with BPD may use social media more than those who don’t, perhaps for validation and reassurance. Sometimes those who live with BPD can hyper-read the room. For the spouse, there is a continual feeling that they are being lied to by the PD.

Enlist the help of a couple’s therapist

DDPT involves plausible situations that are non-bizarre and could happen. For that reason, the sufferer may appear to be in touch with reality. With delusional disorder of the persecutory type , the sufferer is gripped by a fixed false belief that involves a singular situation.

Medication can be helpful if the person with PPD also has depression or anxiety. However, the use of medication is generally discouraged for this condition as it can increase paranoia and suspicion in the person with PPD. Ideally, if medication is prescribed, it should be used in tandem with psychotherapy and for the shortest time possible. And yes, while it can be debilitating, schizophrenia is treatable. I have found that I can manage schizophrenia best with the support of my doctor, friends and family. Nurture relieves the pressure and stigma attached to the disorder.

Another way to understand how a person with BPD experiences life is to realize they have a more difficult time returning to an emotional baseline. Borderline personality disorder is a condition that affects the way a person processes everyday emotions and reactions. Obsessive-compulsive personality disorder is not the same as obsessive-compulsive disorder, a type of anxiety disorder. In addition to individual therapy, couples therapy can be helpful for both partners in the relationship.

I loved her dearly but boy she did my head in and totally drained me at times, using me as her therapist and comfort. I came to understand she just liked/needed the attention and had no other mechanisms to soothe herself as other people do. She had a terrible childhood, with quite traumatic sexual abuse and emotional neglect. It was easy to feel compassion for her when you heard her life story and I do believe she was telling the truth too. She had been in therapy her whole life since she disclosed the abuse as a child. She even did things or gave things to me, that would ‘obligate’ me towards her constant need to sit and talk and cry with me.

I think it would be worth the work of moving the heck out of there I’m so sorry you have to seal with this nonsense. She also is paranoid I am trying to steal her “man” even though they’re not even an item officially. She is jealous of my appearance and constantly put me down when I dress up nice. I have relatives who have told me that she talks about me behind my back and calls me names.